Wellness Tip: Handling Criticism.
No one loves criticism, whether it’s constructive or not. However, if we can learn to embrace criticism, it will propel us forward in life. Criticism, and how we handle it, can tell us a lot about our character. When we are criticized, do we immediately rise up defensive and argue back? Or do we take in what is said, run it through our mental capacity, and ask ourselves if what is being said is true?
There are several sides to criticism, but I’d like to discuss two of them. First, criticism is the act of passing judgment. Sometimes criticism can be used to point out things that we aren’t necessarily aware of. This can be a positive thing and can help us to change our course for a better direction. The second side to criticism is that it can point out exactly what makes us valuable. For example, I have been criticized and called a “goody-two-shoes.” With my personality, I happen to have very strong convictions about different things. These strong convictions sometimes make others uncomfortable. So rather than be uncomfortable, they choose to criticize. Criticism can be a very effective tool if you know how to handle it.
Consider the following ways to handle criticism:
1) Understand the difference between constructive and destructive criticism.
2) Don’t take yourself too seriously.
3) Look beyond the criticism and see the critic. Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself if there is any truth to what they are saying.
4) Watch your own attitude against the critic. No need to drop to their level.
5) Recognize that good people get criticized. Sometimes criticism can be a sign that you are moving forward in the right direction.
6) Stay in shape – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When you feel good about yourself, criticism is easier to handle.
7) Don’t just see the critic, see the crowd. Is more than one person saying the same thing?
8) Try not to get defensive. Wait for a time to prove them wrong.
9) Try to learn a principle. Thank the critic for what you learn.
10) Concentrate on your mission; change your mistake if applicable.
What has criticism taught you? How have you handled criticism? I would love to hear your story in the comments below.